It may feel like just yesterday you were teaching your little
girl the ABCs, and now - right before your very eyes - she's
growing into a woman. As she develops, she's bound to have
questions about the physical and emotional changes of puberty.
As a parent, it's your job to listen to her concerns and
keep the lines of communication open. Here are some tips on how to
make that happen:
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Answer questions openly and honestly.
Let your daughter know that you're available any time to
talk, but also schedule time to talk (don't always wait for
her to initiate the discussion). If she has questions or
concerns that you can't answer, talking with her doctor
may help provide reassurance.
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If you haven't already, start the talk
early.
By the time a girl is 8 years old, she should know what bodily
changes are associated with puberty. That may seem young, but
consider this: some early bloomers are already wearing training
bras at that age. As a conversation starter, you might tell your
daughter about what puberty was like for you when you were
growing up.
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Talk about menstruation before she gets her
period.
Girls who are unaware of their impending period can be frightened
by the sight and location of blood. Most girls get their first
period when they're 12 or 13 years old; others get it as
early as age 9 or as late as age 16.
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Make it practical.
Most girls are interested in practical matters, like how to find
a bra that fits and what to do if they get their first period at
school. Your daughter will appreciate concrete assistance, such
as taking a measurement for a bra or getting some pads that she
can stash in her backpack or locker, just in case.
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Offer reassurance.
Girls often express insecurity about their appearance as they go
through puberty. Some develop breasts at a younger age or get
their period early, while others may not start until they're
a little older. Assure your daughter that there's a huge
amount of variation in the timing of these milestones. Everyone
goes through them, but not always at the same pace.
If you're not entirely comfortable having a conversation
about puberty, practice what you want to say first or ask your
doctor for advice.
Remember, it's important to talk about puberty - and the
feelings associated with it - as openly as possible so that your
daughter will be prepared for the changes ahead.
Reviewed by:
Mary L. Gavin, MD
Date reviewed: December 2008
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice,
diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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