During the middle- and high-school years, homework gets more
intense and grades start to matter more.
At the same time, teens face a lot of other big
changes. They're adjusting to the physical and emotional
effects of puberty, while busy social lives and sports
commitments gain importance, and many also take part-time
jobs.
Parents can play a crucial role in helping teens handle these
challenges and succeed in school by lending a little help,
support, and guidance, and by knowing what problems demand
their involvement and which ones require them to hang back.
Setting Up Shop
Make sure your teen has a quiet, well-lit, distraction-free
place to study. The space should be stocked with paper, pencils, a
calculator, dictionary, thesaurus, and any other necessary
supplies. It should be away from distractions like TVs, ringing
phones, and video games.
Your teen may prefer to retreat to a private space to work
rather than study surrounded by parents and siblings. Grant
that independence, but check in from time to time to make sure that
your teen hasn't gotten distracted.
If your teen needs a computer for assignments, try to set
it up in a common space, not in a bedroom, to discourage
playing video games, chatting with or emailing friends, or surfing
the Internet for fun during study time. Also consider
parental controls
, available through your Internet service provider (ISP), and
software that blocks and filters any inappropriate material.
Find out which sites teachers are recommending and bookmark them
for easy access. Teach your teen how to look for reliable
sources of information and double-check any that look
questionable.
A Parent's Supporting Role
When it comes to homework, be there to offer support and
guidance, answer questions, help interpret assignment instructions,
and review the completed work. But resist the urge to provide the
right answers or complete assignments. It can be difficult to see
your kids stressed out over homework, especially when there's a
test or important deadline looming. But you can help by teaching
them the problem-solving skills they need to get through their
assignments and offering encouragement as they do.
More tips to help make homework easier for your teen:
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Plan ahead.
Regularly sit down with your teen to go over class loads and make
sure they're balanced. If your teen has a particularly big
workload from classes, you may want to see if you can shuffle the
daily schedule so that there's a study hall during the day or
limit after-school activities. Teachers or guidance counselors
might have some perspective on which classes are going to
require more or less work.
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Establish a routine.
Send the message that schoolwork is a top priority with ground
rules like setting a regular time and place each day for homework
to be done. And make it clear that there's no TV, phone
calls, video game-playing, etc., until homework is done and
checked.
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Instill organization skills.
No one is born with great
organizational skills
- they're learned and practiced over time.
Most kids first encounter multiple teachers and
classrooms in middle school, when organization becomes a key to
succeeding. Give your teen a calendar or personal planner to help
get organized.
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Apply school to the "real world."
Talk about how what teens learn now applies outside the
classroom, such as the importance of meeting deadlines - as
they'll also have to do in the workplace - or how topics in
history class relate to what's happening in today's
news.
Homework Problems
Especially in the later grades, homework can really start to add
up and become harder to manage. These strategies can help:
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Be there.
You don't have to hover at homework time, but be around in
case you're needed. If your son is frazzled by geometry
problems he's been trying to solve for hours, for instance,
suggest he take a break, maybe by shooting some hoops with you. A
fresh mind may be all he needed, but when it's time to return
to homework, ask how you can help.
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Be in touch with school.
Maintain contact with guidance counselors and teachers throughout
the school year to stay informed, especially if your teen is
struggling. They'll keep you apprised of what's
going on at school and how to help your teen. They can guide you
to tutoring options, offer perspective on course load, and
provide guidance on any issues, such as dyslexia, ADHD, or vision
or hearing difficulties. You can also be kept in the loop
about tests, quizzes, and projects.
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Don't forget the study skills.
Help your teen develop good study skills - both in class and
on homework. No one is born knowing how to study and often
those skills aren't stressed in the classroom. When
you're helping your teen study for a test, for instance,
suggest such strategies as using flashcards to memorize
facts or taking notes and underlining while reading.
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Encourage students to reach out.
Most teachers are available for extra help before or after
school, and also might be able to recommend other resources.
Encourage your teen to ask for help, if needed, but remember
that in school kids are rewarded for knowing the right answers,
and no one likes to stand out by saying that they don't have
them. Praise your teen's hard work and effort, and ask the
guidance counselor or teachers for resources for support if you
need them.
Don't wait for report cards to find out that there are
problems at school. The sooner you intervene, the sooner you can
help your teen get back on track.
Learning for Life
Make sure your teen knows that you're available if
there's a snag, but that it's important to work
independently. Encourage effort and determination - not just good
grades. Doing so is crucial to motivating kids to succeed in
school and in life.
With a little support from parents, homework can be a positive
experience for teens and foster lifelong skills they'll need to
succeed in school and beyond.
Reviewed by:
Mary Gavin, MD
Date reviewed: September 2007
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice,
diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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