Bedwetting is an issue that millions of families face every
night. It is extremely common among young kids but can last into
the teen years.
Doctors don't know for sure what causes bedwetting or why it
stops. But it is often a natural part of development, and kids
usually grow out of it. Most of the time bedwetting is not a sign
of any deeper medical or emotional issues.
All the same, bedwetting can be very stressful for families.
Kids can feel embarrassed and guilty about wetting the bed and
anxious about spending the night at a friend's house or at
camp. Parents often feel helpless to stop it.
Bedwetting may last for a while, but providing emotional support
and reassurance can help your child feel better until it stops.
How Common Is Bedwetting?
Enuresis
, the medical name for bedwetting, is a common problem in kids,
especially children under the age of 6 years. About 13% of
6-year-olds wet the bed, while about 5% of 10-year-olds do.
Bedwetting often runs in families: kids who wet the bed often
have a relative who did, too. If both parents wet the bed when they
were young, it's very likely that their child will.
Coping With Bedwetting
Bedwetting usually goes away on its own. But until it does, it
can be embarrassing and uncomfortable for your child. So it's
important to provide support and positive reinforcement during this
process.
Reassure your child that bedwetting is a normal part of growing
up and that it's not going to last forever. It may comfort your
child to hear about other family members who also struggled with it
when they were young.
Remind your child to go to the bathroom one final time before
bedtime. Try to have your child drink more fluids during the
daytime hours and less at night. Fluids given later in the day
should not have caffeine. Some parents try waking their kids in the
middle of the night to use the bathroom. Many also find that using
a motivational system, such as stickers for dry nights with a small
reward (such as a book) after a certain number of stickers, can
work well. Bedwetting alarms also can be helpful.
When your child wakes with wet sheets, don't yell or spank
him or her. Have your child help you change the sheets. Explain
that this isn't punishment, but it is a part of the process. It
may even help your child feel better knowing that he or she helped
out. Offer praise when your child has a dry night.
When to Call the Doctor
Bedwetting that begins abruptly or is accompanied by other
symptoms can be a sign of another medical condition, so talk with
your doctor.
The doctor may check for signs of a urinary tract infection
(UTI), constipation, bladder problems, diabetes, or severe
stress.
Call the doctor if your child:
- suddenly starts wetting the bed after being consistently dry
for at least 6 months
- begins to wet his or her pants during the day
- starts misbehaving at school or at home
- complains of a burning sensation or pain when urinating
- has to urinate frequently
- is drinking or eating much more than usual
- has swelling of the feet or ankles
- your child is still wetting the bed at age 7 years
Also let the doctor know if you're feeling frustrated with
the situation or could use some help. In the meantime, your support
and patience can go a long way in helping your child feel better
about the bedwetting.
Remember, the long-term outlook is excellent and in almost all
cases dry days are just ahead.
Reviewed by:
Larissa Hirsch, MD
Date reviewed: October 2008
Note: All information is for educational purposes only. For specific medical advice,
diagnoses, and treatment, consult your doctor.
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